How are the marriages of Jews and Russians. Jewish traditions

When I was seven years old, I fell in love with the son of my mother's friend. The boy was already fifteen years old, and, of course, he did not know about my feelings ... But this childhood love had such a strong influence on me that I soon declared: "I will marry only a Jew!"

There is not a drop of Jewish blood in my wife. True, I communicated with Jewish men in a romantic, friendly and other way quite a lot. And in general, the Jewish theme in my life was important Study and the first work - everything was connected with this. I am generally a "Jewish scholar" scientifically it is called a "Hebraist".

It must be said that jewish men attract not only me. And even if they are not attracted, they are still interested. After all, there are many stereotypes regarding them in the Russian mind, some of which are inherited from our grandmothers. How true are these stereotypes?

Jewish men are intellectual. So yes. In any case, most of the Jewish men I met on life path, were clearly not deprived of intelligence. And some just admired them. Former mathematician, now a linguist, who speaks ten languages, including ancient ones. It took him about a month to learn one language. A prominent literary critic who wrote absolutely amazing works dedicated to the work of Russian poets and writers A cybernetician obsessed with the ideas of artificial intelligence These are, of course, special cases. In the good sense of the word.

By the way, my Israeli acquaintances without higher education working as security guards were also not deprived of intelligence. One of them constantly read Nietzsche and Schopenhauer, while the other shone with knowledge of modern Russian literature and various musical classics.

But! There were stupid ones too. As in any nation...

Jewish men are sexy. So yes. In the broadest sense of the word. I even do not know why. And many of them manage to maintain this quality in themselves until a fairly respectable age. I would even say that after forty their sex appeal increases.

But! There are enough exceptions.

They love mom. So yes. Do you know what a Jewish mother is? About which they sing in the song: "A Yiddish ma-ma" Jewish men of all ages are kind to their mothers.

Such affection is commendable, but everything, as you know, is good in moderation. I know one professor, whose age has long exceeded forty, married and with a small daughter A lives with his mother. Well, he can't live without her! Mom prepares "tasty" for him and endlessly corrects his brilliant works. And the middle-aged wife of a genius with her parents lives almost on the other side of the city.

Once I myself met a Jewish youth whose constant conversations about his mother were truly exhausting. Because there were too many mothers. For mother was very influential In general, she was a typical Yiddish mother, and he was a typical Yiddish son.

But! These are extremes. There is also an average-adequate attitude towards the parent. In Israel, even more so. Still, the Western style of relations makes itself felt ...

good family men This is one of the most common Russian stereotypes.

Rather yes than no. For the most part, Jewish husbands are sweet and caring. True, on the other hand, they also need to be taken care of. There is, for example, the "infantile type" of the Jewish husband. And among them there are many henpecked. But that's not bad either.

But! At the same time, they go to the left. Not a fact, but the phenomenon is quite common. Let's just say Jewish married man at an age that is usually defined by the phrase "gray hair in the head, demon in the ribs", he is always ready to give his attention and charisma to the beautiful ladies around him. At least in an innocent way. Charm, humor, intelligence all this will be used.

They have a great sense of humor. True one hundred percent. It is not for nothing that representatives of this people are leading among our comedians: Arkady Arkanov, Mikhail Zhvanetsky, Efim Shifrin, Yan Arlazorov.

More importantly, the Jews know how to joke with themselves. Let's take at least the work of Igor Guberman.

In general, if you are dating a Jewish man, you are guaranteed fun.

Greedy. Fifty fifty. There are both hypertrophied greedy types and super-generous ones. Concept " jewish greed" a myth.

love Russian women There is such a moment. In any case, many of my acquaintances of this nationality admitted this to me. Why? Inexplicable.

But! They marry theirs. This is often the case. There are many reasons. For example, "one's own closer". And one comrade I know explained to me: he fears that anti-Semitism, which, in his opinion, exists in a minimal proportion in every Russian intellectual, will someday come out. Not with his wife, but with her relatives. Another reason important to some is the nationality of the children. For the nationality of the Jews, as you know, is determined by the mother. Accordingly, if she is Russian, the children, as it were, too.

Well, with religious Jews, too, is not easy. However, Russian wives who converted to Judaism are not uncommon. By the way, they begin to follow the religion of their husbands very earnestly.

Despite all of the above, there are many mixed marriages. And not only with Russian ladies. The same one, my "first love", married a Kazakh woman, and a couple of familiar Jewish men, respectively, a Chinese woman and a Korean woman. Such is a certain craving for the East.

Cropped. Not everyone. Depends on many factors - geography, habitat, religiosity. In Israel, you will meet an uncircumcised comrade much less often than in Russia.

In general, myths are myths, stereotypes are stereotypes, and each individual can form a completely different picture. And overturn all notions of Jewish men For there are no axioms here.

Jews are a people with a rich culture, traditions and history, and beautiful princes live there, which will be discussed today. Traditionally, every week we will tell you about men of different nationalities, and for sure you have already learned all the nuances about . And today we will talk about what is important to know if you want to win the heart of a Jewish man. Be extremely attentive and absorb like a sponge.

Jewish men are wonderful husbands and fathers, and love and respect for a woman is in their blood. But they are like that only with those women who can pick up the keys to their mysterious heart.

If you are going to marry a Jew, consider one important detail and decide whether you are ready to put up with her or not. The way to a Jew's heart is through his mother. These men passionately love their mothers and are very dependent on their opinion. You will never be able to cook as tasty as she, you will never be able to understand it better than she, and, of course, it is she, mom, who knows what will be best for all of you.

You will have to talk and praise a lot about her, but the main thing is to portray maximum sincerity. Mom must not be forgotten. You should definitely remind him to buy her flowers. And not to buy it yourself, but to remind, thereby showing that this woman takes pride of place in your thoughts.

Another golden rule. His mother must think that her beloved and unique son is getting better with you. After that, be sure that she will definitely like you, which means that the main step towards marriage has already been taken.

You should definitely be interested in the health of your grandparents. Insist that you should visit them.

By the way, dad also needs to like it. If your future father-in-law begins to flirt and flirt nicely with you, know that this is a sure sign that you have been approved.

Jews are very demanding and very clean. Is yours appearance must be flawless. Hair on a comb or undiscarded clipped nails can infuriate him. So be sure to keep hygiene in everything.

As a wife, they, as a rule, take an economic girl with a good reputation, who will become a worthy keeper of the hearth. But this does not mean at all that you should be quiet and, when talking with him, bashfully lower your eyes to the floor. These men are simply crazy about strong-willed and a bit bitchy people. They like it when a woman holds them with an iron fist.

Jews are very intellectual, always up to date with all the news, especially political ones, they are well versed in art and are very enterprising. They quickly grasp important information, learn quickly and almost always achieve financial well-being. This feature makes them especially attractive in the eyes of women. So be prepared for competition.

Jews are henpecked amateurs. Such a man must definitely feel strength in you and even be afraid. This is that rare type of man who likes it when a girl blows their brains out for days on end. In this state, they feel very comfortable.

You should just have a sparkling sense of humor, like him. You should be able to quickly respond to his jokes, not just laughing, but answering a joke with a joke, preferably with a serious look. Rest assured, it will blow his mind.

You must be well-read, intelligent, versatile and understand high art. Go to the conservatory, listen to the right music, even if your chosen one is far from it. His demands on you will not be lessened by this.

Jews are brought up with full confidence that they are the best. Bow-legged or crooked-armed, he will absolutely sincerely consider himself Apollo. In no case do not try to convince him of this. Next to you, he should feel like a real deity. And the more inventive your compliment is, the more he will like it.

Despite the fact that they have a great sense of humor, sometimes they are real bores. Get ready, if his temperature suddenly rises to 36.8º C, he will die, suffer, demand constant attention from you and not let you step away from yourself. But, perhaps, will make a will.

Almost all Jewish men love curvy girls. So you can safely eat and gain calories, only preferably in the right places.

Despite the fact that every Jew is a financial bigwig at heart, one can hardly call them generous. They do not like spenders and will not hang you with chinchillas. If you need something, you have to ask. So ask for more.

There are very few Jews who are quick-tempered among males. By nature, they are very docile, because they are gently brought up by their mothers. So it's easy to get along with them. The main thing is to feed before that. Feed the Jew and walk yourself calmly.

How are Jews divorced?
1. Divorce for a Jew is a means to avenge everything. For Egyptian slavery. For expulsion from Palestine. For the Holocaust. And for the fact that you once scared him. It doesn't matter if it's a broken plate or your independence.
2. The Jew, on his own, after careful consultation with his mother, will file for divorce.
3. A Jew will try to give you a subpoena either before the deathbed of your relative, or at the moment when your child became very ill and the doctor said that he should not be worried, or after you find out your terrible diagnosis.
4. And yes, even if you are on the verge of death, never complain to a Jew. This nation has suffered so much that no other suffering can stand next to them, in all ages, in all history. All people, all non-Jews, are indebted to the Jews from birth for all the humiliations that this people endured. And for broken plates- especially.
Therefore, all your requests for sympathy and understanding will not cause anything in the Jew, except ... the desire to once again consult with his mother.
5. If you are “lucky” and your Jewish mother-in-law is still alive, then be prepared for the fact that she will know how many times you did not pick up the phone when her son called you. How many times have you not responded to his text messages. And how many times have you called him and he didn't pick up the phone because his mother forbade him to do so. And by the way, it does not matter that it was not you who called, but the child (son or daughter). Anything you can't see doesn't exist. According to this principle, the life of a Jewish boy who managed to become a dad moves.
6. Explanation of the principle: you can go on the carousel. But if a child lies with a temperature below 40, one can expect such a phrase from a father-boy: what if I come, will it become easier for him? Therefore, what is in sight, there the Jews are at their best. What is hidden does not fit into any human notions.
7. It is useless to compete with a Jew in court. He knows in advance all the resources, all the moves and exits. And in case of resistance, it can leave you, along with the children, without anything at all. Because once it all started with the money that his mother gave. And this is sacred. Mom is sacred. And the money that my mother gave is holier than a saint. Nothing could be more holy.
8. There is a chance not to stay on the street if you come across a Jewish mother-in-law who, with all her might, demonstrated to everyone all her life what a wonderful mother she is, maybe even a kind stepmother and, of course, wonderful beautiful woman! Due to the fact that we live in a society that, nevertheless, preaches the principles of humanism (thank you, Jesus!), they will not go to outright meanness, which will be all obvious in its abomination. Because more important than money for a Jew, only the image. The image of an intelligent, cultured, educated person who does not lose his mind. Not like all the other goyim, who for some reason think that the Jews offend them.
9. Never count on the fact that in the case of a Jew someday justice will prevail. Because in his understanding it is he who is fair, and your claims are stupid and philistine. Be prepared for the fact that in the future it is you who gave birth to his children who will turn out to be a bad mother, just like you turned out to be a bad wife and daughter-in-law. After all, it was the Jews who managed to make the history of their strife a holy book. And if all over the world they are touched by the story of how Abraham rented his wife Sarah to the Egyptian pharaoh in order to blackmail him later, do you really think your ex-Jewish husband will not be able to turn everything around so that it is you who will be to blame for the fact that he first until the age of 30, he jerked off ten times a day, and managed to do it even for the number of pi. The fact that after 30 he was drawn to schoolgirls and by the age of his daughter he already had a mistress, her age. The fact that the son did not want to respect and love his father just like that, but wanted to play football with him, go fishing, fry kebabs, or at least saw or twist something together: everything that the Jewish mother-in-law did not give to her son, therefore, in the male world, he himself was a goy. Unlike the growing son. That his mistress and her family had clamped down on him so much that even his workaholism could not overcome their ban on a working phone. And even the fact that because of this his business withered, and he was overcome by debts, you will be to blame.
10. When a Jew dies, a large crowd will follow his coffin ... claiming his inheritance. Because the fertility of Jewish men is as legendary as the barrenness of Jewish women. Therefore, if you, being a non-Jew, managed to get involved and marry a Jew, and even give birth to children for him, always remember that you cannot frighten Jews. They can so much shit right on you out of fear that you will have to wash off for more than one life.

Creating a happy family is one of the most important commandments not only for Jews, but for any person. This, of course, is one of the most significant events in life, which determines the entire future path of a person.

However, when planning, you should pay attention to certain rules and laws. Sometimes there are important questions that need to be decided before the wedding. And if this is not done in advance, the consequences can be sad.

All laws relating to marriage are written in the Torah and the Talmud. To avoid unnecessary waste of nerves, a young couple should consult with an expert in Talmudic law before entering into marriage. For more complex issues, you should go to the rabbinic court, for example, in New York or Israel.

So, what are the rules for marriage according to the Torah?

1. Prohibition of marriage between blood relatives. A list of relatives who are forbidden to marry among themselves can be found in the Torah, chapter Vayikra, 18. In particular, it is forbidden to conclude a bark between parents and children, brothers and sisters, etc.

However, marriage between cousins ​​is allowed, and an uncle can also marry a niece. Although an aunt cannot marry a nephew.

2. If the mother of any of the potential spouses divorced before their birth, it is necessary to check whether she received a properly executed bill of divorce geth. Why is it important? If a Jewish woman remarries without a proper Jewish divorce, her children from the second marriage may receive mamzer- illegitimate. Such children will be separated by a commandment from the community, they are forbidden to marry Jews.

The same applies to women who themselves remarry. They should take care of the proper execution of all documents and procedures.

3. If one of the parents of the potential spouses converted to Judaism , you should contact the rabbi with this question. Not all conversions to Jewishness or Judaism are recognized in all communities, and some conversions are not recognized in the State of Israel. If the mother, passing through, did not fulfill all the requirements, then the question arises whether her children are Jews. In such cases, the problem is easily fixed.

The same question applies to the bride and groom themselves. When undergoing conversion, it is worth paying attention to which rabbinical court confirms Jewishness. Israel has a list of rabbinical courts whose conversion to Jewishness is recognized in all districts.

4. If a man's first wife dies , then he must wait until the three feasts have passed -, And before he can remarry. A woman can remarry after 90 days after a divorce or death of a husband (according to). In some cases, if a woman has a small child, she cannot remarry until the child is two years old. In this case, an experienced rabbi should be consulted.

5. If a woman has been widowed twice, there are some cases where she is no longer allowed to marry at all. This question should be decided by a rabbi versed in Jewish law.

6. In some circles there is a custom not to allow marriage if the bride has the same name as the mother of the groom, or the groom has the same name as the father of the bride. However, most authorities are inclined to believe that such marriages are allowed.

Eat special category Jews - kohanim , descendants of the high priest Aaron. If a male is a kohen (the son of a kohen, a member of the Jewish hereditary priesthood), then additional rules which he must comply with.

1. Cohen is forbidden to marry a divorced woman, but he can marry a widow.

2. Cohen is forbidden to marry a woman who converted to Judaism (proselyte)

3. Cohen cannot marry a woman who has had sexual intercourse with a non-Jew.

4. A kohen cannot marry the daughter of another kohen from a woman forbidden to him (halakha).

If a kohen marries a woman from any of the above categories, all of his daughters are prohibited from marrying kohens.

Some of these laws may seem unnecessarily rigid and restrictive. But they are necessary, because it is the traditions of Jewish marriage and the Jewish family that have allowed our people to survive and not dissolve into other ethnic groups over the past three millennia.

Every Jewish marriage is a link in the chain that stretches from our forefathers and Jacob, and this chain has survived to this day. But the strength of any chain is determined by its weakest link, because Jewish laws are designed to strengthen every family and help every marriage become happy.

Would you like to receive the newsletter directly to your email?

Subscribe and we will send you the most interesting articles every week!

Hello, dear readers website!

Probably more out of boredom I wanted to write about my life abroad and about my relationship with my husband, as well as to warn young girls about mistakes and unnecessary dreams.

16 comments on “ How to build a happy marriage with a Jew (Tatyana's story)”

1. wild:

   Tatyana, thank you for such a positive story! Such examples happy marriages extremely useful to our readers who are ready to lose faith in themselves and stop looking for a foreign husband.
   Even if you met not on the Internet, not with the help of a dating site, but your experience shows that you can build a marriage with a foreigner both in Ukraine (in your homeland) and in your husband’s homeland.
   Please tell me, did you have to legalize your marriage for Israel? And how did you get a residence permit?

2. Irina:

   And for some reason it seemed to me that Jews eat pork. Or was it not a Jew in the shop?

3. Nika:

   Tatyana, I am very happy for you, for a large and friendly family. As far as I know, Jews try to marry only Jewish women, because The nation of the child is determined not by the father, but by the mother. I personally know a family where the wife is Jewish, the husband is Russian, and their children, of course, are Jews. Arranged marriages are probably not so bad, mutual respect and sympathy are present and this is the main thing. I have been having an “epopee” with a Ukrainian Jew for 6 years already, we met on the Internet. I was in Israel, I have acquaintances there, I agree with everything you wrote. Good luck, happiness to you, sunny mood!!!

4. Anastasia:

   A great story with a happy ending, but I don't understand why he only spoke to you because he had a good car? 😐

5. Irina:

   Great article by a smart, real woman!

6. Erotica:

   well… maybe such “arranged” marriages are the strongest and happen… it’s a shame, of course, I still dreamed of strong love, but I’m glad that Tatyana is doing well.

7. Valeria:

   Half a year ago, I met a Ukrainian Jew on an Internet. He has been living in Israel for over 10 years. After 2 months of communication, I flew to visit him for a month. I am 10 years younger than him. I have no children, divorced. He is also divorced, his daughter is 18 years old. The first wife and daughter also live in Israel. Of course, I liked the country, I traveled on all sorts of excursions ... We developed relations with him, although his mother was half Jewish, she was not happy with me. I myself am from Ukraine, I have Jewish roots along my father's line, I have a Jewish appearance on my face. And because of his mother, we had a big fight. She did not accept me into the family, he lived with her. On this basis, a conflict occurred. I flew home, stopped talking to him. But a month later, he began to send SMS that he misses, loves and wants to live with me. We again began to correspond on the Internet, he apologized that he was wrong, said that his mother was to blame for everything, turned him against me ... And in the spring, I should make an invitation for me to fly to him. He has a condition, he wants me to convert, only then he agrees to everything. Wants children and a family with me. But one but! I'm afraid of cheating on his part. The first time he also invited me, he promised to sign me in Cyprus, because in Israel, if not a Jewess, then they would not sign. They have very strict laws! And now he also says that the family is the main thing for him. I don't know whether to believe him or not again. The fact is that Jews are a little cunning people, they also love calculation, if they marry, then only a Jewess. I'm half Jewish, maybe he fell for me because of this, I don't know for sure. We communicate every evening with him on the net, we got used to each other, like a call of blood with us. We swore many times, he always puts up with me first. I see that he cares about me. But how to understand that a person is not really deceiving me??! I want to believe him, I love him, but I'm afraid that he won't marry. Who is well acquainted with our repatriates who moved to Israel, or who are married there ....give advice. Can you trust them. Now such a time has come that there are few decent men who can be trusted and believed. He promises to rent a separate apartment for us in the spring, so as not to live with his mother. And most importantly, if the girl is young and flies to Israel from Ukraine or Russia, they may not let her through the second time. They are very strict there, when I was at the Ben Gurion airport they did not let many young women through, some flew just on vacation, or to their fiancés. I'm afraid to fly myself, even if they let me through! I ask for advice, who lives with our Jew, or is familiar with them, whether these men can be trusted with their heart. And yet, I heard that Jewish men are very fond of children, caring fathers. Wives don't take care of children as much as dads. But by nature, the Jews are a little cold, proud and not so affectionate. I have heard this from many women. As men, they take care of the family, but by nature they are callous, of course. Write good advice, I want to consult before leaving. 🙂

   • Love:

     Valeria, how did the story end?
     Single girls are allowed into Israel, however, they find fault with them more. The first time I flew alone, I felt “hospitality”.
     And for the second time I was traveling with my mother, they no longer pestered me, and the rules have changed, my suitcases are already being searched after being checked in, my lock was broken.

     An acquaintance flew alone to Israel many times to see her fiancé, even when no one was allowed in during the conflicts. As a result, the groom moved to her in Moscow.

8. Nika:

   Strike while the iron is hot! 🙂 My situation is almost the same, but it has been going on since 2008 with different variations.

   • Valeria:

     Nika, why is it taking you so long, since 2008?? Maybe because it's hard to get married to a Jew? The thing is, you can't get to Israel that easily. Jews do not hurt Ukrainians and Russians who want to marry a Jew. I heard that many people stay there illegally, so they don’t let many people through for this reason! And for me to accept conversion, as my Jew said, it will only be better for me. Their mother's Jewishness is determined so that our children are Jews, I just need to convert. Of course, there are many difficulties! But mine is already preparing for the spring to invite me to my place, I don’t know what will come of it, I really want a new family, and children with a loved one. Did you also meet your Jew on an Internet? I met mine in April last year, and already in June I flew to him. We've known each other for more than half a year. We got used to each other, that we don’t want to get acquainted with anyone anymore. Please write how you met yours. Is he also a returnee? It would be interesting to talk with you, we have a slightly similar situation. 🙂

9. Hannah:

   Valeria, how did it all end? I was inspired by your story, I'm interested. 😉

10. Tatiana:

    This is all wonderful, of course, but I am constantly haunted by one question to which I cannot find an answer - why do our beautiful and educated Slavic women strive to choose a Jew, Arab, Hindu, Caucasian, anyone but a Russian man as their husband? This is very strange, especially since among Russian men there are a lot of worthy, smart, with a high level of education, beautiful with precisely the “Nordic” northern beauty, and not the southern swarthy-hairy-nosed one, sorry for the truth. For some reason, our women do not have such called racial hygiene, the desire to preserve one's family, one's pure northern blood. In this matter, I have always admired the Chechens and Ingush, for example. With their mother's milk, girls are introduced to the concept of eugenics, racial purity, a Chechen or an Ingush will never mix the pure blood of their kind with a person of another nation, especially another race. We Russians need to learn from them, otherwise we will soon disappear as a people, we will disappear without murder and genocide, but because of the stupidity of our cosmopolitan women.

    • Natty:

      Tanya, it is very difficult to find a husband in Russia at the age of 40)) There are a lot of liars and not decent men. It is rare that anyone wants to start a family at this age, everyone already had families and have children! It's not that the Woman is only looking for a foreigner! It’s just that when you meet a decent, honest and caring man and he is a foreigner, this factor is not important anymore) The main thing is not the nation, but the attitude towards a woman)) And in Russia there are a lot of single women and certainly not because they don’t want to marry Russian men)

11. Annie:

    I like Israel and the fact that the inhabitants of this wonderful country live according to their customs. The Russians don't have that. And in general, in Russia, the institution of family and marriage has a dull development. My dream is to go to Israel. I was born in a Siberian provincial town in a dysfunctional family, where I survived the female genocide. In my biography there is a place for violence against a six-year-old girl, for whom no one stood up, my honor was discredited by my father. Mother and sister did not interfere with this. I lived for 12 years among psychopaths. Silent neighbors eavesdropped on what was going on at home and was silent. Social workers came and told me: well, what can we do, your parents are sick, there’s nothing they can do to help, and you will soon grow up and arrange your life. And that's all. Molchok. No action. In Russia, children and motherhood are something unnecessary in society, as if superfluous. My relatives tried to hand me over to an orphanage, from the age of 9 I began to wander. Sometimes my teachers invited me home to eat and that's it. No one dared to deal with fate. By the age of 14, I had breasts, and my sister dreamed about it and beat me because I was more beautiful than her, because I was an excellent student at school. I experienced all the humiliation and deprivation, my notebook drawings were thrown away, books were destroyed so that I would not read like “too smart started here”. Getting a job was problematic, maybe a minor. These monsters took away my passport and hid my certificate so that nothing would work out for me. It was better with work in the summer, but this is not enough for prospects and survival. When in Europe you can work from the age of 15! At the age of 17, I had a chance to leave from there to nowhere. I moved to a big city in the capital with a penny in my pocket. No one was interested in where and what my story was. Show-off and toadying are welcome here. Being an orphan is generally hard to survive. There were acquaintances with similar cases, it connected us as relatives. But over time, everyone has their own families or careers. It was problematic with suitors, they needed an apartment and a car and a good pedigree. And I'm already without luggage, whatever one may say. There is no base. I have never lived in a family. And the example of a family was seen and admired for the rest of her life by only one family - who moved to Israel in 1998, they are real Jews, they treated their children very well, they always attended all kinds of circles, when, like Russian children, the majority loiter through the streets, from 5 -6 years old Jewish children have music, violin, mathematics, everything you need for development. A girl from their family was friends with me and invited me to visit. Her mother was the only person in her entire childhood who asked how I live and whether my mother or father drinks. I have never seen them lounging or drinking! The girl grew up in love and attended art school, she loved to draw, like me too. No one allocated funds for me to develop, I cried a lot. They taught me board games. They always have joint leisure time. I only dreamed about it! And I still dream of a family. My alimony for me, which was allocated from the biological father of the alcoholic - they were taken by the mother and returned to the table of the drunk to drink further. My matrix, my program, is flawed from birth. One wise woman told me that I should not marry for love, you are being used, you will marry a marriage swindler. You do not have a strong family behind which you could be like a mountain. She is right. But I forgot those words. And she got married. After 5 years, I remembered the phrase when my husband removed the mask of virtue. Began blackmail and ridicule. I am constantly in children. I have small ones. The mother-in-law interfered and the pregnant woman called me a whore. I had to defend myself and run to lawyers or to the police. Everyone brushes it off, or you have to foist a lot of money. His friends think it's normal and it's supposed to be like that. I meet happy families less and less. Some get divorced, others beat their children. And this makes my head spin. I was lucky, I live separately from the psychopath so that my children do not absorb the whole atmosphere of the matriarchy of his family. He doesn't want to keep us. It doesn't develop itself. He goes to work as a civil servant and dreams of becoming rich. Keeps in touch with the former who received the inheritance and like she is cool, compared, look, you are so poor, and she is rich. Why then he took me to the registry office, I don’t know, probably for status. Here, development and content are no longer supported in any way, not respecting motherhood is generally the norm. They don't like kids here at all. They will not bother with children and grandchildren there, and so many live, which upsets me. I dream of a family. Where can I find her. I live modestly. One with children. This is my only happiness. According to the calculation, you won’t get your nerves to get married either. I read a lot of information and study how to leave for permanent residence. And lucky in love or not, I do not hope.