How can I thank the Almighty for a joyful event in my life? “Thank you” to God, angels, saints and the Universe: how to give thanks in order to be happy.
A religious person differs from an atheist in that he never feels alone. He understands that the Lord not only observes, but also participates in his life. Therefore, believers consider it necessary to thank God for everything that happens to them. But how to do it right? Let's try to figure it out.
Keeping the commandments
The main gratitude is the observance of the Ten Commandments that Moses received from God on Mount Sinai. Don’t kill, don’t steal, don’t envy, don’t commit adultery, honor your parents... It would seem that these are the rules of life for an ordinary decent person. However, it is incredibly difficult to comply with everything.Our heroine Anna considered herself a pious woman. She went to church, fasted, and prayed daily. However, when she accidentally made a mistake at work, she had to choose: either admit her mistake and lose her bonus, or shift the blame to a co-worker.
The woman chose the second option, thereby violating the ninth commandment, which states: “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” Anna managed to receive the prize, but after this incident she began to be tormented by remorse. The woman felt that the Lord was displeased with her. And then she did the right thing: she admitted her mistake to the director and apologized to her colleague.
Yes, Anna received a reprimand, but her soul was calm. After that, every evening in prayer she thanked God for giving these commandments to humanity. She also thanked the Almighty for allowing her to sin, suffer and atone for her sin.
Sincere Prayer
Thus, there is one way to thank God - to pray correctly. This can be done both in the church and outside it; out loud and mentally; the main thing is that these words come from the very depths of the soul.But it should be remembered that thanksgiving prayer– not one that is a response only to joyful events. Gratitude must be expressed even in difficult periods of life, because the Lord sends trials to a person so that in the end he finds good.
This is what Arkady did, who had an accident and suffered a spinal cord injury. He not only asked all the saints and his guardian angel to restore his health, but also thanked God every day in prayer for saving his life. Gradually, following the doctors’ orders, believing in the best and saying “thank you” to the Lord for every day he lived, Arkady began to recover.
Two years later, he got back on his feet and does not consider it a miracle: the man knows that this was a test from the Almighty, and he did the right thing, maintaining faith in the best.
Candles
The next way to express gratitude to God for the help provided is to light a candle in the church. For this, select the icon of the Savior, which is usually located on the right side of the altar. Read the prayer, say “thank you” for giving his life to save humanity. And luck will turn its face to you!This happened to Anastasia, who really wanted a child, but for health reasons could not get pregnant. The girl attended church; I lit candles for both the Savior and the Mother of God; thanked her for all the good things in her life. And heaven helped her: Anastasia carried and gave birth to a wonderful son. After that, she began to thank God and her guardian angel with redoubled force. And most importantly, when the child grew up, she told him about the just and loving Lord, whose mercy is endless.
Appeal to an angel
However, you can thank not only the Creator, but also your guardian angel. After all, he is invisibly next to each of us, protecting, protecting and guiding. This can be done at any time, either with a special prayer or with ordinary words. For example: “Thank you, guardian angel, for following me and leading me, invisibly helping me and covering me with your wing.”Again, words of gratitude can be anything; the main thing is that they are spoken from the heart and supported by pious actions. For a guardian angel, your destiny is of utmost importance. Therefore, do not forget to let him into your life. To do this, you should remember the day of honoring the angel: November 21 (the day of remembrance of all angels). On this day, it is important to come to church and light a candle with words of gratitude to your protector.
Appreciation of the Saints
Often Orthodox people They themselves choose one of the famous saints as their patron. Feeling his support and help in all endeavors, a person experiences a feeling of grace. To express gratitude to the saint, you can do the following:- light a candle for the icon;
- read the akathist;
- donate to the temple;
- give alms to a beggar;
- turn with words of gratitude in prayer.
As confirmation - an example from life. Alcoholism is a terrible disease, and Elena knew about it firsthand. Her husband Vadim is a heavy drinker: neither admonitions, nor scandals, nor coding helped him. Then Elena began to regularly attend church and ask Matronushka of Moscow to help her husband. A miracle happened: the man came to his senses and stopped drinking. Elena thanked Matronushka for a long time and promised to help everyone in need. She kept her word; and Vadim, indeed, never touched the bottle again.
Letter to the Universe
Not every person is religious. However, many believe, if not in God or a guardian angel, then at least in an infinite and wise Universe. It is to her that they address words of gratitude, it is to her that they ask for mercy for themselves. But how to do it right? There are several techniques.
The most common of them is “Letter to the Universe.” It's very simple: you need to take a piece of paper and a pen and write about your gratitude to the Cosmos. The text can be in any form, the main thing is from the heart. If you thank the Universe for your birth, successes and even failures, the result will not be long in coming.
A striking example of this is Tatyana. She “sent” letters of gratitude to the Universe every month. It looked like this: in her messages, Tatyana indicated all the achievements and positive situations that happened during this period. Here she thanked the Universe for all the joys, went into nature, where she burned the letter and scattered its ashes to the wind. And, surprisingly, Tatiana was lucky everywhere, and her positive attitude towards life simply attracted her to her. good people.
Skeptics will say that this is a coincidence. However, nothing in the world is accidental. After all, scientists have proven that if you sincerely thank God, your guardian angel, the saints, the Universe or the people around you, this will become a powerful impetus for internal transformation. And, as we know, it leads to external transformations.
Salvation is in gratitude
The famous American entrepreneur and author of books on self-help issues, Joe Vitale, described the following case in one of his works. A man named Jonathan became seriously ill. Bilateral pneumonia was very severe, and there was no end in sight to his suffering. Then Jonathan did the right thing: he hung numerous pieces of paper on all the walls, on which one sentence was written.It read: “Thank you, Lord, for all the blessings that I have and for all the blessings that I will receive.” . Incredible, but true: exactly 24 hours later the disease subsided and the man recovered! The power of gratitude is incredible, and it's worth remembering even in the darkest of times.
If some joyful event occurs in a person’s life, or a person gains goodness, or he is saved from trouble, then in this case one should give praise to Allah Almighty, for if a person gives praise, then he receives even more benefits from Allah Almighty, as He Koran said:
لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِن كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِى لَشَدِيدٌ
(meaning): " If you are grateful for My blessings, I will multiply these blessings for you. And if you are ungrateful for My blessings (that is, if you deny them and hide them, then) truly, My punishment is severe “- that is, Allah will deprive them of these benefits and punish them for denial and ingratitude for these benefits. (Sura Ibrahim, 7; “Tafsir Ibn Kathir”)
As for bowing to the ground as a sign of gratitude to Allah Almighty (sujud shukri), it is narrated from Abu Bakrat (may Allah be pleased with him):
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وسلم إذا جاء الشئ يُسَرُّ بِهِ خَرَّ سَاجِدًا شُكْرًا لِلَّهِ تَعَالَى
« Having received any good news, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) at the same moment bowed to the ground " (Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi)
Performing sujud shukri is desirable when a person receives good news, when Allah Almighty gives him grace or in other similar cases.
In his book " Minhaj al-Talibin” writes the following about this:
« Sujud Shukri is not included in the prayer (that is, it is not done during the prayer). It is advisable to do Sujud Shukri when a person receives ni’mat (grace) from Allah Almighty, or when he is saved from some kind of trouble, or when he sees a person who has suffered a misfortune, or a person committing a sin. It is also advisable to show the performance of sujud shukri to the sinner and hide it from the person who has suffered misfortune. Sujud shukri is performed in the same way as sujud at-tilava (prostration for reading the Koran)».
Imam An-Nawawi describes how sajd at-tilawa is performed in the same book as follows:
« Anyone who performs Sujud at-Tilawa outside of prayer should first of all intend to perform Sujud at-Tilawa, then, raising his hands, say “Allahu Akbar.” Next, he should say “Allahu Akbar” again while bending, but this time he does not raise his hands. Next, one should perform sajdah in the same way as he does it in prayer. Then he gets up, saying “Allahu Akbar", and gives salam.
The recitation of “takbirat al-ihram” (introductory “Allahu Akbar”) with which the sujud begins is one of its conditions, according to a strong (sahih) opinion in Shafi'i madhhab, also salam (is one of its conditions), according to a strong (azhar) opinion. For one who performs sajd at-tilava (also sajd shukri), it is obligatory to comply with all the conditions that are necessary for performing namaz.”
(« Minhaj al-Talibin"; Head of Sajdah at-Tilawa)
As we understood from the above text from the book “Minhaj at-Talibin”, Sujud at-Tilawa is performed both during prayer and outside it, but, unlike Sujud at-Tilawa, Sujud Shukri is not performed during prayer.
In the book " Majmoo Sharh Al-Muhazzab"The following is written about this:
« The great scholars of our madhhab (ashabs) are unanimous that it is forbidden to perform sujud shukri during namaz, moreover, if a person performs it in this way (during namaz), then his namaz is definitely violated».
Imam Al-Bayhaqi and others report that (may Allah be pleased with them) also performed sujud shukri, and the fact that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sometimes did not perform sujud shukri, they explain by the fact that he thereby wanted to show the optionality of its performance, or At this time, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was on the minbar and it was inconvenient for him to perform sujud in this position.
In addition, you can thank the Almighty for joy by distributing sadaqa, performing desired prayer as a sign of gratitude to Allah Almighty. In the same book " Majmoo Sharh Al-Muhazzab"The following is written about this:
« If a person who has received grace and been saved from troubles gives sadaqa or performs namaz as a sign of gratitude to Allah Almighty, this is considered a noble deed. It is implied that he does all this and at the same time performs sujud shukri».
You can also express gratitude to Allah Almighty with the help of various duas and praises. Scientists believe that the best form of praising Allah Almighty is:
الحمدلله حمداً يوافي نعمه ويكافيء مزيده
« Alhamdu li-Llahi hamdan yuwafi ni'mahu wa yukafiu mazidahu »
“Praise be to Allah in such quantity and quality, which would be sufficient in gratitude for all His blessings that He has endowed me with, and for those benefits that He will provide in the future.”
Some scholars also say that the best form of praise is to say:
الحمد لله بجميع محامده كلها ما علمت منها وما لم أعلم عدد خلقه كلهم ما علمت منهم وما لم اعلم
« Al-hamdu li-Llahi bi-jami'i mahamidihi kulliha ma 'alimtu minha wama lam a'lyam 'adada khalkihi kullihim ma 'alimtu minhum wa ma lam a'lyam ».
« Praise be to Allah by all kinds of praise, those that I know and those I do not know, in an amount equal to all His creations, of which I know and do not know.».
Another formula is also transmitted, which gives praise to Allah Almighty:
يَا رَبِّ لَكَ الْحَمْدُ كَمَا يَنْبَغِى لِجَلاَلِ وَجْهِكَ وَلِعَظِيمِ سُلْطَانِكَ
« I am Rabbi lakya l-hamdu kama yanbagi li-jalali vajika wa li-‘azimi sultanika »
« O my Lord! Praise be to You in proportion to Your splendor and the greatness of Your power».
Ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
أن عبدا من عباد الله قال: يا رب لك الحمد كما ينبغي لجلال وجهك ولعظيم سلطانك فعضلت بالملكين فلم يدريا كيف يكتبانها فصعدا إلى السماء وقالا يا ربنا إن عبدك قد قال مقالة لا ندري كيف نكتبها، قال الله عز وجل وهو أعلم بما قال عبده: ماذا قال عبدي قالا: يا رب إنه قال: يا رب لك الحمد كما ينبغي لجلال وجهك وعظيم سلطانك، فقال الله عز وجل لهما: اكتباها كما قال عبدي حتى يلقاني فأجزيه بها
“One man from among the servants of Allah said: “ I am Rabbi lakya l-hamdu kama yanbagi li-jalali vajika wa li azymi sultanika " And these words tired both angels, and they did not know how to write them down. Then these angels ascended to heaven and said to Allah: “ O our Lord, verily, one of Your servants uttered such words that make it difficult for us, we do not know how to write them down" Allah Almighty asked them, knowing better than them what His servant said: “What did My servant say?” They replied: “O our Lord, he said: “ I am Rabbi lakya l-hamdu kama yanbagi li-jalali vajika wa li-‘azimi sultanika"" Then Allah Almighty said to them: “Write down these words as My servant pronounced them until he meets me, so that I reward him for them.” (Ibn Majah)
Summarizing all of the above, we can conclude that if we want to thank Allah Almighty and gain His pleasure, constantly abide in His blessings and never be deprived of them, we need to praise Him as often and as much as possible, pronounce these words, distribute sadaqa, perform prayers and prostrations on each appropriate occasion.
Rashid Saidov
“The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said: “How amazing is the position of the believer! Verily, everything in his situation is good for him, and this is not given to anyone except the believer: if something pleases him, he thanks (Allah), and it becomes good for him, but if grief befalls him, he shows patience, and this also becomes a blessing for him.”
We don't realize how blessed we are until we lose something. Our parents, children, husbands and wives, health, hearing, vision, mental abilities (and this list goes on forever) are only a gift from Allah Almighty. Allah said:
Is the One who creates similar to the one who does not create? Will you not remember the edification? If you begin to count the mercies of Allah, you will not count them! Verily, Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. Allah knows what you conceal and what you do openly (16:17-19).
2. The main goal of Satan is to make a person be ungrateful and turn away from Allah.
From the very beginning of the creation of man, showing gratitude to Allah became a test for man and a temptation for Satan against him.
Iblis said: “Because You have seduced me, I will certainly sit against them on Your straight path. And then I will approach them from before and from behind, from the right and from the left, and You will not find most of them grateful” (7:17).
3. Ingratitude is a weakness of iman.
In the Quran, Allah Almighty says: “Remember Me, and I will remember you. Give thanks to Me and do not be ungrateful to Me” (2:152).
Iman (faith) includes gratitude to the Almighty for any outcome and position that He has bestowed.
4. Gratitude to Allah is for your own good.
One who is grateful to the Almighty finds His contentment and inner peace and peace of mind. In gratitude to Allah lies happiness and benefit for the person himself. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Love Allah, for He is beneficent (bestows you with blessings).”
The Koran says: “Give thanks to Allah! The one who gives thanks acts only for his own good. And if anyone is ungrateful, then Allah is Rich and Praiseworthy” (31:12).
“After that you turned away, and if it were not for Allah’s mercy and mercy towards you, you would certainly have been among the losers” (2:64).
5. True worship is gratitude.
Allah Almighty said in the Quran that only those who truly worship the Almighty show gratitude to Him. One who is not grateful is not showing true worship. And gratitude lies not only in appreciating and thanking for good things, but also in accepting any outcome as the will of the Almighty. “O you who believe! Eat of the lawful good things We have provided for you, and be grateful to Allah, if only you worship Him” (2:172).
6. Gratitude leads to the pleasure of Allah.
Allah Almighty Himself said that His pleasure can be achieved through gratitude. “And if you are grateful, He will approve it for you” (39:7).
The hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) says: “Allah is pleased with a slave when he praises Him after eating and drinking.”
7. Gratitude is the purpose of our creation.
Man was created to be tested, through which the pleasure of the Almighty is achieved. Gratitude is the test of our faith. “Allah brought you out of your mothers’ wombs when you knew nothing. He has given you hearing, sight and hearts, so perhaps you will be grateful” (16:78).
8. The happiness of both worlds depends on gratitude.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever is given four things, this will be the best blessing of this world and the hereafter: a grateful heart; a tongue occupied with the remembrance of Allah; a body patient in the face of adversity; a wife who does not betray her husband either in body or with his property.”
9. Allah's mercy is available to everyone, but many are ungrateful.
The doors of Allah's mercy are open to everyone, even those who are ungrateful. Allah does not deprive, Allah is the Giver. “Verily, Allah is merciful to people, but most people are ungrateful” (2: 243).
10. In gratitude, there is an increase in Allah’s mercy towards us.
Allah has promised to increase His mercy to those who appreciate and express gratitude for Allah's blessings. Allah's reward for gratitude is limitless and unconditional. “If you are grateful, I will give you even more” (14:7).
I have something to thank every person in my life for.
Happiness is gratitude. Peace of mind begins with being grateful for what you already have.
Be grateful.
Happiness is always available to us if we notice the small daily joys of life. The secret of happiness is gratitude. Whenever dark thoughts creep into your head, when you are disappointed in people or in life, start keeping a gratitude journal. Write down all the little joys in your life. A cup of tea, a warm bed, a child’s smile, your family, the taste of chocolate.
So much to be grateful for. Life literally abounds in beauty and kindness; you just have to open your eyes to see it.
Be grateful for where you are now and how much you have accomplished.
When you realize with what enormous Love Life itself takes care of you! In that very Moment, all suffering, tears and sadness will leave You...
And only Gratitude will remain. Boundless Gratitude.
In which you will dissolve...
Dear God! ... I want to turn to you... not to... ask you for something,... but just... to say thank you for everything... that I have!
Know how to thank, gratitude is a property of a good heart.
Never forget, even in the darkest days of your life, to thank God for everything. He is waiting for this and will send you new blessings and gifts. A person with a grateful heart never lacks for anything.
When receiving gifts from life, do not forget to thank the Universe for the “delivery”))
If you learn
The art of gratitude
It will be so easy for you
Learn
The art of accepting life.
Sri Chinmoy
If the only prayer of your life is the word “thank you,” then that will be enough.
Say thank you while you live. Say words of gratitude to God, Life and the Universe for everything that comes your way! Words of gratitude create a full cup in your life. They turn what we have into enough, and even more. They transform refusals into agreement, chaos into order, confusion into clarity, and a wanderer into a friend...
Dissatisfaction brings neither happiness nor goodness. It will only fix you in your condition. Appreciation for what you have will attract more happiness into your life.
Gratitude in the heart.
When your heart is full of gratitude, any door that seems closed can lead you to amazing discoveries.
Whoever you meet at your life path- thank him for participating in your destiny. Whether it was an episode or for life, no person comes into the life of another by accident.
Thank you!
Always say to everyone - Thank you! This simple expression of gratitude arising in the Heart has a huge impact. It cleanses the soul of judgements, preferences, fears, feelings of separation, conflict and even longing, returning the mind to its natural state - unaffected Awareness. Muji
Learn to Give Thanks.
And not just say words, but pronounce them from the depths of your heart. Experience it. Gratitude is true Magic. Give thanks for everything, for all even the most insignificant things, and most importantly - Give thanks for what seems bad, for trials. This is not clear only at the very beginning of the journey, but as you develop, you will want to not only thank for bad things, but bow deeply. Just know that through the bad comes three times the good.
Always give thanks to everything! This simple expression of gratitude arising in the Heart has a huge impact. It cleanses the soul of judgements, preferences, fears, feelings of separation, conflict and even longing, returning the mind to its natural state - unaffected Awareness. Mooji.
Kneeling before God
We ask: "Give me, let's go, forgive me..."
But we often forget to God
Say “Thank you” from the bottom of my heart.
We'll never get what we want until we are grateful for what we have.
A grateful heart does not choose what to be grateful for and what not. It gives thanks for everything.
Start thanking God for what you have and He will give you what you lack.
Look back and sincerely thank
In order for the Universe to give you more happiness and the things and events you desire, you need to look back and sincerely thank you for what you already have. For the wonderful things you have, for the events that brought you to where you are now...
The shortest prayer in the world is “Thank you”!
And most often, this is enough.
Have you ever thanked the Planet for existing?
Gratitude is an aspect of God. The highest manifestation of Love and the state in which every incarnate and non-embodied Soul of Light should reside. It doesn't matter which side of the veil you are on. The energy of Gratitude acts the same way both here and there. The energy of gratitude is designed to give Blessings. This is the first Law and the most important formula for eternal abundance and prosperity. Start transforming your life and your current state with gratitude. Gratitude is the sweetest energy in the Universe. You know that not all creatures are capable of this. Many of them believe that they are so unhappy that they have nothing to thank for, and no one. Many people don’t even know what it is. Start thanking yourself for beautifying the Universe with your presence. When you pour out the energy of Gratitude into space - the highest manifestation of Love for God and for all living things, you give benefits to yourself and everyone around you, everyone who is near you. When you give thanks, you are literally giving gifts - you are bringing Gifts and, above all, to yourself, for you are the magnetic source of your gratitude. The more you give thanks, the more energy and power of light flows into your being and into your life. You can be grateful for everything, but, above all, for life itself on this planet and for the opportunity given to you to learn all the lessons that you are going through. Because it really is greatest gift, this is a special place.
Gratitude to the world, and not only for the good, but also for painful lessons, should be constantly in a person’s heart, as the core of his life. Then it grows.
Sincere gratitude is a radiation of creative energy. Vadim Zeland - Reality Transurfing
As part of the project “Caring for the Important,” implemented under the auspices of the Youth Social and Patriotic Movement “AKHMAT,” we interviewed the chief pediatrician of the Chechen Republic, head of the children’s department of the Ministry of Health of the Chechen Republic, doctor of the highest category, Taisiya Irbaieva.
Taisiya Irbaieva was born in the village. Sernovodsk, where in 1983 she graduated from school with a “gold medal”, and in 1990 from the North Ossetian State Medical Institute. During the period of hostilities from 2002 to 2005. worked as a medical coordinator for North Caucasus in the Polish organization “International Humanitarian Initiative”. From 2005 to 2011 was the head of the emergency department of the Republican Children's Clinical Hospital. In 2008, she underwent primary retraining in the field of gastroenterology and since then has also been working as a pediatric gastroenterologist. Since 2011, he has been the chief pediatrician of the Ministry of Health of the Chechen Republic, and since 2015, the head of the children’s department of the Ministry of Health of the Chechen Republic. Work experience in the specialty is 26 years. Has the highest qualification category.
Taisiya Yusupovna, good afternoon! In difficult times for our people, you were not only a pediatrician, but also represented an international humanitarian organization as a medical coordinator for the North Caucasus. Tell us more about that period of your professional activity.
The activities of our organization included providing medical care to adults and children injured during military operations on the territory of the Chechen Republic. In addition, we also distributed clothing, food, and reimbursement of treatment costs. The organization has worked since 2002 in Ingushetia, and in 2004 we opened a branch in the Chechen Republic. Assistance was also provided with medicines, equipment and consumables to the medical institutions of our republic operating at that time. Our organization provided assistance to victims of the explosion of the Government of the Chechen Republic in the city of Grozny, during the explosion of the building of the Ministry of Internal Affairs of the Republic of Ingushetia in the city of Magas, during the terrorist attack at a school in the city of Grozny. Beslan North Ossetia-Alania. We had an agreement on joint cooperation with the Russian Ministry of Emergency Situations. Rescuers from the Tsentrospas Ministry of Emergency Situations of Russia have more than once conducted seminars for refugees in camps on how to provide emergency assistance and compliance with safety measures in places of residence. After our project closed, I came to Grozny and started working here.
Tell us about your school and student years. What was interesting and what has survived to this day?
Being an athlete, activist, and excellent student, during her school years she participated in all Olympiads, taking prizes. I did not take the final oral exams in 10th grade, they were assigned to me automatically, and the final essay took part in the republican competition and took 1st place in the Chechen Republic. Mathematics, German, physics, chemistry, Russian language and literature, algebra, geometry - all these were my favorite subjects, in which I took first and second places at republican competitions. My teachers thought that I would be a philologist, but I knew that I would be a doctor. I was only interested in medicine. School knowledge gave me the opportunity to develop harmoniously. At the institute I wrote operas for STEM, participated in the student spring and, naturally, many miniatures and productions did not take place without my participation.
I play the guitar and write poetry from an early age. Some of my poems were published in one of the collections for refugees. This was during the period of my work in a humanitarian organization. In addition to my work, I enjoyed, as a volunteer, providing psychological assistance to refugees together with the organization CER Canada. For this purpose, collections of works by young poets from among those who lived in tent camps and volunteers were created. Subsequently, this passion of mine turned into a hobby that helps me live. Helps in terms of speaking out, conveying your experiences and thoughts to people. Because, by conveying them, we let go, and expressing them gives a sense of freedom to many of our sensations, which we lack in Everyday life. Since last year I have been studying the Koran and learning Arabic.
In your opinion, what made you choose this profession?
All my thoughts and conversations were around the fact that I would be a doctor. And most importantly, in my opinion, this was encouraged by my parents. A white robe, a white cap...for me they are associated with purity, calmness, wisdom, intelligence. As a child, we cannot realize what is characteristic of the profession that we choose. Only the attributes that we see leave an imprint on us. And these first impressions guide us to future thoughts and actions. My father talked about how during the Russian-Chechen war, my great-grandfather was a doctor, and he was one of the first Chechens to perform craniotomy. In addition, my aunt worked as a nurse. My name also has something to do with medicine. My aunt named me that in honor of the doctor who treated my father’s family during the plague during the period of exile. All these stories also left their indelible imprint on my choice of profession. Somehow I never even had a question about who I would be. I knew that I would become a doctor and treat people!
Your association of the medical profession is a help. Was there another concept for you that is synonymous with this valuable profession?
The first doctor I had the opportunity to meet in my life was our rural pediatrician Sultygov Magomed, who later headed our local hospital. He was my father's friend. From conversations adults had about him, I realized that he was a very respected person, wise, calm, reasonable, competent and kind. I always remember him with a constant smile on his face when he visited the sick. My father said that when Magomed visited a sick person, the patient felt better just from his presence. Therefore, for me this profession is associated with respect, intelligence, wisdom, knowledge and kindness. I had someone to follow by example.
It turns out that the institution of family largely determines a child’s future profession?
Definitely yes! It is primarily up to the parents to help their child decide on a career choice. A child’s first experience of a community is his family, and his family’s lifestyle becomes for him a kind of standard of relationships and view of the world around him. Nowadays there are many families where the parents are unemployed and it is normal for the child that mom and dad are at home all day. In the future, the child may imagine himself as a person who is constantly at home. And only by going beyond this circle of his first cell of society, he already becomes acquainted with other concepts about family, team, work, choice of profession, etc.
I grew up in a time when my mom and dad worked. Back then, women were on maternity leave for only 1 month, after which they went to work and sent their children to a nursery or kindergarten. The state took care of the child - the woman worked. This was par for the course. Today a woman can be on maternity leave from 1.5 to 3 years, this is very good, because... she has the opportunity to devote more time and attention to her child. At that time, there was a different policy, the relations of a socialist society, and this policy was justified. Now all the efforts of the state are aimed at putting the Family at the forefront. A woman, as the keeper of the hearth, is given the opportunity to rest and gain strength for the birth and upbringing of subsequent children. Because this is also an indicator of social well-being.
What made you choose to become a pediatrician?
My mother wanted me to become a gynecologist, since it is a female profession. But I had no idea who I definitely wanted to be and went to college to study medicine. After six months of study, the dean of the pediatric faculty came to us and announced a shortage of pediatric faculty. I don’t know what influenced me then and why I decided to change the faculty, but I know one thing for sure - it was a choice that was dictated by the Almighty, knowing everything that will be in the future. And I haven’t regretted a single day about becoming a pediatrician. On the contrary, every time I thank the Almighty for giving me the opportunity to make this choice. Because, being a woman, a pediatrician, first of all, I can provide medical assistance to my children, relatives, friends, and, of course, help to others.
When children in the house are sick, the first reaction of adults is almost the same - they are ready to get sick themselves, just so as not to see the child sick and his suffering. Most people are perplexed how one can understand what is hurting a child when he cannot tell the doctor anything or complain. This only emphasizes the importance of the medical profession, and especially the pediatrician. By the way, in most cases, pediatricians can work as therapists, due to the fact that they study not only childhood diseases, but also diseases of the adult body. Therefore, it is not difficult for a pediatrician to help an adult, but for a therapist it is very difficult to help a child, and often even impossible .
It is very interesting to work with a child. When a child feels better from your treatment, your participation, it is so nice to see such grateful eyes, how the child begins to reach out to you.
In your opinion, when should you start raising a child?
There was a case when a boy of about 7 years old was brought to our department with a fracture. With him, in addition to his father, there were 10 other men. The child categorically did not allow himself to be examined. With every touch, curse words were thrown at us. At the same time, his father apologized for him. We all understood that the child did not learn this in one day, and it is clear that this was encouraged by the adults in his family. Otherwise, the father would not have to blush and apologize for him. This suggests that for this child, this is his experience of family. And who will such a child become and who is to blame for his behavior? What you sow is what you reap. Therefore, the child must be raised in the womb. First of all, the child must realize that he is desired and loved.
In this matter, much depends on the relationship between the parents. Taking into account the fact that the laying of organs occurs at the 4th week of pregnancy, the heart, lungs, outlines of arms, legs appear, it is important not only what happens in utero, what happens to the mother and in the environment of the mother is also important. Although it seems to us that this is just a fetus that may or may not be born, in fact it is a living organism that “hears”, “sees” and “feels” everything. At the 4th month of pregnancy, the child can already distinguish between the voices of the father and mother, behave calmly, or kick, show that something does not suit him, i.e. all this suggests that from the very beginning we need to show our love, even if only for the forming organism inside us. Without love nothing is possible.
Was scientific work one English psychologist who, using hypnosis, identified where a child’s aggression towards his own mother came from. It turned out that at a certain period of pregnancy, she wanted to have an abortion, but then she still kept it. However, the child retains the imprint of the fact that he is not wanted, he is not loved. Probably, the child does not remember these things, but on an unconscious level, our subconscious records everything, nothing disappears, does not disappear anywhere, it is all interconnected. And this can explain many behavioral disorders in children.
In your opinion, how to educate - to help a child grow up healthy: spiritually, physically, intellectually?
Naturally, the child should be surrounded by love, but at the same time, parents should realize that they cannot make a little dictator out of him. Don’t indulge him by doing some things for him, considering him small, but do them with him.
75% of the information a person receives throughout his life is received before the age of 5. Accordingly, at 3 years old, they are called “why”, because Having learned to speak, put together phrases, pronounce sentences, children show interest in everything. A lot here depends on how patient the parents are to answer all these questions and let them open up their world. For example, it is important for a child to see a flower and find out what it is. If mom brushes it off, saying, what difference does it make to you, then he will conclude that it makes no difference to him and in the future, he will not be able to understand why many people are so delighted with flowers. If the mother tells him what the flower is called, that it is beautiful, you can’t pick it, but you just need to inhale the beautiful aroma, then for the child this is a lesson in understanding this world. Children are very observant; they, like a sponge, absorb all incoming information from the outside. And if they see that parents sometimes behave strangely (in their children’s opinion) - they scold someone for their eyes, but when they meet this person they smile sweetly at him, then the child will learn to be a hypocrite, and the parents will puzzle over where such a person comes from. the child's character. They (children) surprise with their observation, wisdom, sincerity, and the spontaneity with which they do all this.
There are a lot of “guides” on how to raise a child from famous psychologists and doctors. But, in my opinion, it is worth turning to your faith. There are a lot of hadiths about how to treat a child, how to raise him, what kind of parents should be. Humiliation is prohibited in Islam. A child (and even an adult) cannot be humiliated; this suppresses his immune system, which has been scientifically proven. Until the age of 5, a child cannot be prohibited from doing anything, but he can be distracted. If he is doing something dangerous or bad, then it is better to make a scared face and make a scared exclamation. The child understands this language very well. During this period, activity, curiosity and interest in life are laid. If he breaks something, he does not understand that this thing was bought, that money was paid for it, but he will understand from your emotions that he did wrong. And if a child is physically punished for such an act, then you will not teach him not to break things, but you will teach him to obey the one who is stronger. An older child can be given certain “tasks” and required to complete them. From 5 to 10 years, children's intelligence actively develops. The child must learn to predict people's reactions to his actions, evoke a positive attitude towards himself and avoid negative manifestations. At this time, you can not be afraid to load your child with knowledge. You need to communicate with a child from 10 to 15 years old as an equal. Not on equal terms, but “as with an equal,” since we, adults, have more experience and knowledge. Consult him on everything important issues, provide and encourage independence. You must impose your will using “velvet gloves”: during the discussion, with hints and advice. If you don't like something, then focus his attention on negative consequences, avoiding direct prohibitions. At this time, independence and independence of thinking are formed. And in adolescence, from 15 years and older, the child must be treated with respect. It is too late to educate him.
How to make a visit to the pediatrician as effective as possible?
Answer the doctor's questions clearly. It often happens that mothers not only conduct long monologues that are not related to a specific case with the child, while asking thousands of questions, but also like to be looked at quickly by others and communicate with them for hours. Moreover, they can tell about their neighbor’s children and ask for advice on how to cure them.
Doctors are limited in time, and this time must be valued, since there are still children waiting in line: we need to help this child and be in time for the others. For example, doctors abroad do not engage in preventive conversations; there it is all the prerogative of nurses. The doctor only treats: examines, diagnoses, makes prescriptions.
I consider the worst reception in my practice to be when a mother comes with two or three children. It’s easier for me to accept three mothers one at a time than one with three, because she really can’t say anything about any of them. In this case, it depends on the doctor’s experience whether he can correctly stop the conversation and start a conversation on a specific topic.
What are your wishes for parents?
My only wish is that parents speak very honestly about their children if they have complaints. You can't lie to a doctor! All information that the doctor requests from parents must be available. I would also like our parents to trust their local pediatricians. Even the worst doctor will try to do everything not to lose the trust placed in him. It’s just that parents often come and ask to recommend the best pediatrician, adding that their local pediatrician is young and doesn’t know anything. Thus, the doctor is initially deprived of the chance to become good friend families. The doctor must be respected. If the doctor is not competent, there is no need to talk about everyone in general. We need to figure out this problem, contact his supervisor, and if the doctor does something wrong, he will be punished and required to undergo additional training. But unfortunately, our lack of restraint sometimes leads to undesirable situations. And making hasty conclusions in such situations is extremely undesirable.